Jo Maeder was an ambitious DJ in New York City when she did the unthinkable: she moved to the Bible Belt to look after her frail, estranged mother, who had long been a source of intense frustration. Maeder's tumultuous journey from simply living with “Mama Jo” to learning to truly love her not only changed Maeder's life, but also was the catalyst for pulling her long-fractured family together again. Though often rocky, their “marriage” was a triumph that taught her about life, faith, and what really matters. With an estimated 34 million informal caregivers in the United States today, more and more adult children are finding themselves in similar circumstances. Poignant and refreshingly funny, Maeder's story will resonate with this vast audience, providing an informative and inspirational roadmap for compassionate elder care.
"This book is important to every mother and daughter, and to every woman who wants to be one." MAYA ANGELOUJo Maeder was a high-energy, irreverent Z100 radio "ZJ" in New York City when a series of crises led her to do the unthinkable: leave New York for the Bible Belt- "Greensboring," North Carolina-to care for her estranged, eccentric "Mama Jo." What she thought would be some of the worst years of her life turned out to be some of the best. The same was true for her mother. Jo also discovered there's nothing boring about Greensboro. Though often rocky, this "marriage" was a triumphant success, leading Jo to repair a long-fractured family, smooth her rough edges, and find a new and vibrant life she never imagined.This you'll-laugh-you'll-cry story has helped others navigate their own present or future "long goodbye" with an elderly loved one as well as the complex family issues that arise. Even those who have already lost a loved one have felt a cathartic release and clarity. "This generous gift of a book explores the mystery of how doing the right thing can, in the end, become infinitely more." Tommy Hays
In-laws are the inescapable consequence of marriage. Whether they’re kindly or malevolent, helpful or crazy, they’re unavoidable. The relationship can be traumatic, rewarding, maddening, and hilarious—sometimes all at once. In I Married My Mother-in-Law and Other Tales of In-Laws We Can’t Live With—and Can’t Live Without, Ilena Silverman brings together a collection of talented, successful writers who plumb their own experiences for extraordinary and unexpected wisdom about this prickly and often misunderstood relationship. We hear from some of today’s best authors, including Michael Chabon, who writes movingly about the lessons he learned from his first father-in-law; Kathryn Harrison, whose relationship with her father-in-law was far more rewarding and less complicated than the one she had with her own father; Matt Bai, who struggled across cultural barriers to learn more about the lives of his reserved Japanese-American in-laws; Martha McPhee, who explores the difficulty in fully knowing her husband without ever having known his parents; Susan Straight, who recounts her experience as the first white woman to marry into her African-American husband’s extended family; and Ayelet Waldman, who ponders the competition between wives and their mothers-in-law for the attention of their husbands/sons. By turns blunt and poignant, horrifying and touching, the essays reflect the rich complexities of these bewildering and life-changing relationships. Remarkable for both the quality of its prose and the scope of its emotional insight, I Married My Mother-in-Law is an unforgettable anthology about the struggles and rewards of life with our other families.
When a Woman Is in an Emotional Tug-of-War for Her Man's Heart Why can't he commit? Many women find themselves asking this question when in love with a man who won't get married, won't stop womanizing, or refuses to give up his sex addictions. Often this kind of man is bound by an unhealthy attachment to his mother. This phenomenon is called "mother-son enmeshment." In When He's Married to Mom, clinical psychologist and renowned intimacy expert Dr. Kenneth M. Adams goes beyond the stereotypes of momma's boys and meddling mothers to explain how mother-son enmeshment affects everyone: the mother, the son, and the woman who loves him. In his twenty-five years of practice, Dr. Adams has successfully treated hundreds of enmeshed men and shares their stories in this informative guide. He provides proven methods to make things better, including: -- Guidelines to help women create fulfilling relationships with mother-enmeshed men -- Tools to help mother-enmeshed men have healthy and successful dating experiences leading to serious relationships and marriage -- Strategies to help parents avoid enmeshing their children When He's Married to Mom provides practical and compassionate advice to the women who are involved with mother-enmeshed men, to the mothers who wish to set them free, and to the men themselves.
Originally published in Sweden in 1936, this rare novel is the first volume in Martinson's acclaimed autobiographical trilogy. Told through the seven-year-old child Mia's eyes, the novel portrays a life of dreadful poverty, recording in detail Mia's beautiful mother's pregnancies by her handsome but hard-drinking and unfaithful husband; the succession of rented rooms infested with rats and lice, where Mia lives; the insiduous separateness and cruelty that the haves inflict on the have-nots. "A poignant, yet unsettling documentary story that transcends time and place in its depiction of the struggles of the working poor, deserving of a place alongside such notables as Sinclair Lewis, Ole Rolvaag, and John Steinbeck."-Booklist
When life sucks, what do you do? Married My Mom Birthed A Dog shows you how to master resilience amid stress, obstacles and adversity. Learn to be confident as you conquer challenges like depression, grief, financial troubles, self-sabotage, self-doubt, chronic pain and nerve pain. Let Allison lead you on a journey to becoming a Resiliency Ninja!
We had the marriage license, ceremony and my name changed but no marriage. Follow one woman's journey from a crazy marriage to atonement as she is married for 4.5 years or so she thought. Find out what happens when she filed for a divorce and yet lost to him filing for an annulment because before, during and after her HE WAS MARRIED TO SOMEONE ELS
An eye-opening, funny, painful, and always truthful in-depth examination of modern relationships and a wake-up call for single women about getting real about Mr. Right. You have a fulfilling job, great friends, and the perfect apartment. So what if you haven’t found “The One” just yet. He’ll come along someday, right? But what if he doesn’t? Or what if Mr. Right had been, well, Mr. Right in Front of You—but you passed him by? Nearing forty and still single, journalist Lori Gottlieb started to wonder: What makes for lasting romantic fulfillment, and are we looking for those qualities when we’re dating? Are we too picky about trivial things that don’t matter, and not picky enough about the often overlooked things that do? In Marry Him, Gottlieb explores an all-too-common dilemma—how to reconcile the desire for a happy marriage with a list of must-haves and deal-breakers so long and complicated that many great guys get misguidedly eliminated. On a quest to find the answer, Gottlieb sets out on her own journey in search of love, discovering wisdom and surprising insights from sociologists and neurobiologists, marital researchers and behavioral economists—as well as single and married men and women of all generations.
Brenda Hale had been married for 22 years when her husband, Mark, was killed in Afghanistan. He was the longest serving soldier to be killed in action. Describing the shock, grief and huge financial problems Brenda faced immediately after Mark’s sudden death, I married a Soldier, shows her determination to fight for the rights of her two daughters and to take on the Ministry of Defence. She reveals the suffering of a bereaved forces family and looks at how she found a way through an event that threatened to crush her, by drawing on her faith and on a personal strength she didn’t know she had. It shows the personal cost of war, and the need for support for those affected. Brenda’s determination to fight for the rights of families affected by death in action led her into politics as a member of the Northern Ireland Assembly. This is a story of heroism, love and loss, grief and isolation, but also of faith and hope
A Sunday Times Top 10 bestseller. Amanda Owen has been seen by millions on ITV's The Dales, living a life that has almost gone in today's modern world, a life ruled by the seasons and her animals. She is a farmer's wife and shepherdess, living alongside her husband Clive and seven children at Ravenseat, a 2000 acre sheep hill farm at the head of Swaledale in North Yorkshire. It's a challenging life but one she loves. In The Yorkshire Shepherdess she describes how the rebellious girl from Huddersfield, who always wanted to be a shepherdess, achieved her dreams. Full of amusing anecdotes and unforgettable characters, the book takes us from fitting in with the locals to fitting in motherhood, from the demands of the livestock to the demands of raising a large family in such a rural backwater. Amanda also evokes the peace of winter, when they can be cut off by snow without electricity or running water, the happiness of spring and the lambing season, and the backbreaking tasks of summertime – haymaking and sheepshearing – inspiring us all to look at the countryside and those who work there with new appreciation.
Radio actor Iron Rinn (born Ira Ringold) is a big Newark roughneck blighted by a brutal personal secret from which he is perpetually in flight. An idealistic Communist, a self-educated ditchdigger turned popular performer, a six-foot six-inch Abe Lincoln look-alike, he marries the nation's reigning radio actress and beloved silent-film star, the exquisite Eve Frame (born Chava Fromkin). Their marriage evolves from a glamorous, romantic idyll into a dispiriting soap opera of tears and treachery. And with Eve's dramatic revelation to the gossip columnist Bryden Grant of her husband's life of "espionage" for the Soviet Union, the relationship enlarges from private drama into national scandal. Set in the heart of the McCarthy era, the story of Iron Rinn's denunciation and disgrace brings to harrowing life the human drama that was central to the nation's political tribulations in the dark years of betrayal, the blacklist, and naming names. I Married a Communist is an American tragedy as only Philip Roth could write it.
‘This collection is stormy, romantic, strong – the Full Brontë’ The Times A collection of short stories celebrating Charlotte Brontë, published in the year of her bicentenary and stemming from the now immortal words from her great work Jane Eyre.
First published in 1954, this is a true story of love and adventure which traces the history of Dawson City through the eyes of a young schoolteacher from Canada and the penniless Yukon miner she married... “This is a brave book. It is a record of a woman’s courage and devotion in a hostile land. It is the story of a refined and sensitive girl who found happiness the hard way, and triumphed over conditions that would have driven most women to distraction. It is also a tribute to a husband who with hand, heart and head was outstanding in a world of worthy men. “I have read many books on the Yukon, but this is different...It is the gallant personality of the author which shines on every page, and makes her chronicle a saga of the High North.” (Robert W. Service, Preface)
As a child, Sabrina's abuse was never validated. As the rape and violence continued, escalating in nature-abusers who are not caught test their limits-she approached puberty with an unstable and insecure sense of self, and a distorted perception of her role in relationships. She had been conditioned to devalue her needs and give without question. At fifteen she meets the man of her dreams, but by nineteen-pregnant and married-her hopes and dreams of love and romance are crushed. She is caught in a web of violence and psychological mind games, being constantly threatened that if she tells anyone or tries to leave she will lose her children, public respect-everything. When Sabrina finally breaks free, she finds herself in a courtroom being served a thirty-five-page motion and an Emergency Protective Order "protecting" her abuser and children from her. Her worst fears are now her reality. After a lifetime of abuse will she be able to bear the burden of this pain, injustice and helplessness?
There is no rule that says heartbreak must be a prerequisite for good judgment. If you don't want to be a divorce statistic and are ready for a long-lasting relationship, this book's for you. In today's divorce culture, too many people have stopped trusting their ability to build a loving and lasting marriage. Now renowned relationship coach and counselor Chana Levitan reveals the 10 essential questions everyone should ask before saying "I do." Readers will learn how to: spot long-term potential; know the difference between infatuation and love-how they work against each other and yet how they can work together; reevaluate their approach to love and what they really need to succeed in building a loving marriage; gain the confidence to steer through the decision making process of dating; and more. Filled with real-life anecdotes and insightful advice, I ONLY WANT TO GET MARRIED ONCE helps readers get it right the first time.
More than a million couples can’t be wrong! And with this updated edition of their award-winning book, Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott help you launch lifelong love like never before. This is more than a book—it’s an experience, especially when you use the his/her workbooks filled with more than 40 fun exercises. Get ready for deeper intimacy with the best friend you’ll ever have. Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts, in more than 15 languages, is the most widely used marriage prep tool in the world. Uncover the misbeliefs of marriage Learn to communicate with instant understanding Discover the secret to resolving conflict Master the skills of money management Get your sex life off to a great start A compelling video, featuring real-life couples, is available, and with this updated edition Les and Leslie unveil the game-changing SYMBIS Assessment. Now you can discover how to leverage your personalities for a love that last a lifetime. Make your marriage everything it is meant to be. Save your marriage—before (and after) it starts.
Together For All The Wrong Reasons. . . The Marquess of Grayson never felt a twinge of guilt when he stole the beautiful Lady Pelham right out from under his best friend's nose. After all, they were well matched in all things--their sensual appetites, wicked wits, provocative reputations, and their absolute refusal to ruin their marriage of convenience by falling in love. But then a shocking turn of events sent her roguish husband from her side. Four years later, he has returned a powerful, irresistible man who is determined to seduce his way into her affections. No, this is not at all the man she married. But he is the man who might finally steal her heart. . . "Day plays on sensual themes with a lush grace." --RT Book Reviews
Lindy was born in Southern California with a severe eye problem. Her medical prognosis was total blindness by the age of thirty. However, she was blessed with a miraculous healing in her early twenties that cured and eliminated this problem. Even though her mother was a counselor who worked to optimize the mental health of others,she engaged in chronic manipulation and sociopathic control over her entire family. Sadly, Lindy’s father was too weak to stand up to her mother and remained distant from his children. Her older sister also suffered at her mother’s hands. Because of her mother's unrealistic demands to be more than perfect, the constant painfully exhausting interrogations, and sexual abuse, Lindy lived her youth trapped in a perpetual state of fear, unending stress, and high anxiety. After Lindy finally got the courage to leave her parent’s home, she found herself in social and personal relationships that eerily echoed her own dysfunctional upbringing. Disgusted with her new found independence, Lindy’s parents disowned her, billing her for all financial costs they had incurred since the day she was born. Fortunately, Lindy's travels were positively touched by very special people; actor Kurt Russell, Hall-of-Famer Kareem Abdul Jabbar, and many others celebrities including Triple-Crown “Natural Mr. America” himself! When Lindy met Greg Tefft, she thought she had found “Mr. Perfect”. Even though Lindy saw "red flags" warning her not to marry him, she ignored them. Greg was willing to do anything to maintain his celebrity status, and in doing so, he fell prey to scam artists. Debilitating emotional and physical abuse was turned on Lindy. She walked alone in a tunnel of terror. After separating and leaving Greg, she tried to find love and security with other men. These relationships were devastating. Through fierce faith and a determination to survive, Lindy went through an arduous process of finding a spiritual path. With intense strength and perseverance, step by step,she eventually became her own hero.
I started seriously looking for a husband when I was twelve. I'd had enough of being a child, enough of being told what to do. I was unhappy at school; I resented homework; I didn't get along with my mother. Having seen movies like South Pacific, Sayonara, and A Summer Place, I believed in true love. More than anything, I wanted Rossano Brazzi, Marlon Brando, or Troy Donahue to come rescue me from my childhood. I wanted to be an adult, to be free, and to be loved." Book jacket.
I Married the Duke begins the Prince Catchers series by Katharine Ashe, award-winning author of historical romance. Arabella Caulfield, one of three orphaned sisters, has clung to an ancient gypsy prophecy as the only way to save her family from endless heartbreak. Now she has twelve days to reach a remote French castle and fulfill her destiny: to marry a prince. Along the way, Arabella meets Lucien Westfall, decorated naval captain and the new Duke of Lycombe. She thought he was a pirate. He thought she was a governess. Two wrongs have never made such a scandalously perfect right. Readers of Regency romances and the works of Eloisa James and Lisa Kleypas will fall in love with the Prince Catchers books by Katharine Ashe.